Sir J.

[ladygreywolf]

I am LadyGreyWolf, from GreyTower. As all here are...., just deeply saddened at the loss of a dear dear friend. I met Joe about 3 or 4 years ago when he was in Camelot Reborn. He visited The GreyTower many times. I think he had the biggest circle of online friends than anyone I knew. He was always out visiting and making friends in other rooms. And of course like most here, that friendship went beyond the different chat rooms that he visited. He made his place at Castle WindStorm, and spoke highly of everyone there. It was through Joe that I on occassion visited his home. He would pop into The GreyTower and visit and rp. It was such a joy to have his character there. Always upbeat and had the best sense of humor in character, as it told of his sweet personality out of character. He posted me on icq......on 11/19/05 telling me of the cancer.....we spoke several times....posting support for him....and the last time we spoke was 1/2/06. I dont even want to delete him off of icq. Just cannot do it. It is all I have left of a dear online friend that became as many of us feel.....a r/t friend. I never met Joe in r/t......but as most of you all did, he spoke of his passion for deep sea fishing and his writings....what an incredible talent he had with words.
I am wondering if anyone knows the address where I could send a card to Friday? I do not know her but want to send something. Also, does anyone know when the funeral is/was? Where he was buried? Just some details? As some of you have done, I will send a pm to Friday from here and hopefully get some more information. I will contribute to whatever is decided for a memorial. Incredible how dear friends come together. This passing of Joe, had made me think of my own life and what is important and how we cannot take for granted people, friends in our lives.....dear sweet friend......we shall miss him forever.....and all of us mourn in our own way of this incredible man that touched so many....

LadyGreyWolf
(Tara)

[Sinold Bragasson]

Grey Wolf (BTW - check your PMs here),

I feel so much like you. I will not delete Joe from my ICQ, I probably never will. In December he wrote me a letter, 4 pages long and hand-written, how much the chemo and radiation therapy were taking their tolls on him but how much he wanted to beat this damn cancer. I was so surprised to get that letter from him, I had never expected such. That, a few pictures he shared with me, and my memories will be all that is left.

I, too, hope that maybe Friday will let us know when and where our dear Joseph will be buried. It would be nice to maybe some day go there and lay a flower on his grave. It really would be nice!

[Friday]

Dearest Friends of Sir J, Joseph, Joe,
I have just been sitting here reading the many many kind and thoughtful words you have written and though the tears are flowing and gentle deep caring feeling has seemed to surround me and give me comfort, but for this moment all I can say is thank you I shall post, but please understand my thoughts are all still to fresh and painful, and and let each of you know of my Joe....he is at peace now...but forever with each one of you in a memory. Sends *hugs to you all.
I shall try to post a photo here now, was taken early this past summer, we were on the river fishing *ss*...with the borrowed words Dream posted (thank you Dream - 'tis as he would wish us all to do)

Thank you all again....your kindness brings comfort...

yours very truly

Friday

[Lady Edfeil]

Joe has been burried two days ago, I'll come back to you all later about the exact place. I know that friday was with him to the end and I think for such we can only be grateful to her.

I'm certain she'll be here again later, but I can understand that this thread must not be easy to read through in this grief for one who loved Joe so deeply. I can barely manage reading a couple of posts in it myself without crying.

As to any plans for memorials and IC reactions, please give me a bit of time to check through all the ideas and offers, etc. Everyone loved Joe so much, and as you may know I'm just back at my own computer and with some time behind it (except for half an hour at night).

I do know that one of the gifts that Joe has given to Windstorm, besides all the magnificent memories that we all carry, would be the friendship that friday has shown us. Very few people would have taken his online family into account the way she did. Her friendship is something I'll treasure from now on forward.

((doublepost with friday. *ss* ))

[Quicksilver]

I remember Sir Joseph as someone who could keep you entertained with his wild stories full of vivid details. He always seemed to make you just want to smile when he was in a room. May his family find comfort at this time and may his stories continue to entertain those in the afterlife. He will be remembered fondly.

Quicksilver
~Dunnottar~

[Tiger Eye]

It is with a heavy heart that I learned this news only just moments ago. Sir Joseph was a good friend of mine from when we would RP together in the Grey Tower. He will be sorely missed, as no matter what he was feeling RT he always made laughter for others.

Sir Joseph was the first to encourage me to write my book, which is still in production, even going so far as to proofread the first chapter for me and offer comments and suggestions. What he has meant to me, I cannot even say. My thoughts and prayers are with him and his family.

Rest well, my friend. A tiny Fae in the Grey Tower will always remember you....

[Cheialare]

That was truly beautiful, Friday, thank you for reminding us of what Joe would have wanted instead of what we were doing. Of course he would have wanted us to laugh and remember the good times and to remember him with joy and laughter of what he gave us during the times he was here and what he gave us to treasure for the rest of our lives.

And thank you for sharing him with us, you are truly a beautiful person, he is lucky to have had you, just as you are lucky to have had him, and still have him with you. *smiles and sends you a hug, along with your sons.*

[Lady Edfeil]

Tomorrow (pending readiness of the writer) there will be an IC thread in which the death of Sir Joseph is anounced.
A messenger anouncement seemed best. I don't think any of us feels really up to playing this death in the room, but our characters can not pretend that Sir Joseph was never there and he is way too special to have him just 'slip into obscurity'. As we grieve in RT, our characters need to be able to grieve before they can find footing again.

The other OOC ideas will still follow. If people want to volunteer to write something for either of them, please let me know.

[Sinold Bragasson]

That would be a good way to include Joseph's passing into our online lives. It will still be hard, and for me ... I already have sported an appropriate ava since his passing almost two weeks ago. I just couldn't pretend nothing had happened... this now will make it "official" and give us an opportunity to grieve IC as well.

[Dream Loxley]

I am sure other homes will be glad to have the opportunity to 'officially' pay tribute to our Joseph ic.......... he was well loved and respected far and wide. We are honoured he chose to make his home here in Windstorm and I know ic we will keep his name and memory precious as well as ooc.

ic will be no easier than ooc ......... but sometimes these tragic events in our lives can bring us all closer......... as we share our grief.

[ladygreywolf]

I will be more than happy...and also honored to pay tribute ic to Sir Joseph. I know many will follow suite......